Are you easily influenced in your relationships? Agree with your partner to keep the peace? Hard time knowing how you feel about something when a stronger personality takes over?

 

Many highly sensitive people experience this. There’s nothing wrong with this (or you!) You’re simply highly attuned to the energy of people around you, which can be a GIFT. However, it’s exhausting when you’re constantly being bombarded by someone else’s energy and you’ve lost sight of your own thoughts and feelings.

 

This is especially challenging when it’s your partner and you’re taking on their feelings and emotions. The first step is to notice it’s happening and then you can find ways to reconnect to yourself, protect your energy and speak up for yourself.

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Hi! I’m Manisha

So happy you’re here!

You landed here as a smart, self-aware woman committed to your growth and success. You’re no stranger to personal development and it shows in many areas of your life… yet somehow all that ‘work’ is not translating to your relationships in the way you want.

  • You notice that you hold yourself back from fully speaking up around certain people in your life.
  • Maybe it shows up at work around a lot of people or you feel you feel like you ‘owe’ time to your clients and have a hard time wrapping up your day.
  • In your relationship, you might default to your partner’s opinion and need some extra convincing to express your opinion.
  • Maybe you find yourself getting triggered by the same insecurities even though you’ve done a ton of work around this.

You’re constantly learning and evolving through books and podcasts and I bet you’ve even worked with a therapist or coaches in the past to help you get through an overwhelming time or anxiety. And it’s been really helpful, which is great.

But somehow, there are still times you feel really stuck or reactive in relationships. Setting boundaries has always been a sticking point. It feels scary at times. You don’t want to disappoint people and sometimes it’s easier to give in because you don’t have the bandwidth to say no and stick to a boundary.

If you happen to have a highly sensitive nervous system, this can feel even more challenging. When you’re sensitive to your environment and people around you, you’re often picking up on what people want and need — and through a whole host of conditioning, culture and possibly early trauma or difficult experiences, you have the ability to feel people’s pain – and you might even feel responsible for making sure they are ok.

Does this feel familiar?

While being empathetic is a gift (when wielded well), when you’re not sure how to separate your feelings from someone else’s, you take on more than what is yours more often than you realize.

Thinking your way through this and mentally willing yourself to push through discomfort is exhausting. You can do it, but I will tell you it’s not sustainable. It’s why you feel drained or exhausted around certain people and could be the cause of symptoms such as migraines, panic attacks, IBS, insomnia and other symptoms of stress.

The good news is that you can change your reaction to what’s upsetting you by working under the surface… with your body and nervous system.

I know this because I’ve lived it. I felt things so deeply that it was often overwhelming. I was always tuned into the feelings of others, often at my own expense. I would go out of my way to make sure others were ok but I wasn’t doing the same for myself. I would get triggered easily and take things personally because I was so disconnected from my own feelings, what I needed, and how my past experiences were seeping into my current relationships.

In my own long, winding healing journey, I started to understand what I needed to feel more grounded and connected to my body and realized the connection between the arguments in my relationship and experiences I had early in life that I hadn’t worked though, I learned more about relationship dynamics and how as someone who is highly sensitive, other people’s moods and energy really affected me. I was finally able to put the pieces together and do the inner healing work (somatic practices, rewiring my nervous system, attachment work) to shift how I was showing up in my relationship. THEN things drastically changed for the better.

I would LOVE to shorten this journey for you!
I know the power of somatic healing to transform your relationship. Strengthening your relationship to yourself and stepping into who you are changes your relationship on the outside!

Curious to learn if somatic work is right for you?

Check out my Instagram posts to learn more about boundaries, relationship dynamics and nervous system healing and listen to The Transform Your Relationship Podcast where you’ll hear personal insights, client success stories and how trauma informed approaches can help you transform your relationships from the inside out.

Ready for 1:1 personalized support to heal old patterns and transform your relationship?

I support clients in a few different ways because everyone is in a different place in their journey. If you are newer to somatic work and want to explore the challenges coming up in your relationship through single sessions, book your session(s) directly or schedule a 15 minute complimentary connection call to first get your questions answered.

If you are steeped in this work and are looking for combination of healing & mentorship as someone who is highly sensitive to heal and move past early life experiences impacting your relationships, read all about my 4 Month Mentorship: Reclaim Yourself and we can schedule a call to discuss how I can support you to transform your relationships from the inside out.